Bikash Choudhury
After one and half decade of completely blissful married
life; I wish to share a few secrets of this venture for the uninitiated or
those young men who are having a tough time in adjusting to sharing their god
gifted life for once with another young woman. The secret numbers one; never
ever criticize or speak any thing negative about your in-laws in front of your
better half even if you are in the side of truth & reality. The secret
number two; always appreciate the parents, siblings of your wife and even their
old mongrel even if there were no merit or very little substance. The secret
number three; praise the beauty of your sweet heart profusely with all the
adjectives available in the Chamber’s English dictionary from hair down wards
and give compliments to her culinary skills even though some times you find it
hard to swallow the food from your throat downwards and feign innocence about
lack of appetite or hunger with equal intensity. Fourth one is for those who
have natural skills with English words in conveying ‘ideas’ full time or
freelance; write some thing good about your father-in-law and make an attempt
to get it published in a news paper central column; in fact this author now
makes an attempt in this direction to confirm the arrangement of receiving
unrequited love and gastronomic delight for the rest of the life. My
father-in-law is a very intelligent person who pursued his passion in sports to
a career of life time and therefore kicked the engineering education in the
middle and joined the prestigious Laxmibai
National College Gwalior . He
completed his post graduation from the institute with distinction and joined
Kendriya Vidyalya, GoI as a sports teacher. In between he married an ambitious
and academically oriented rich girl and they had four daughters and one son;
all of whom are now very successful in their respective field. One outstanding
aspects of his personality was his attitude towards his four daughters in a
social environment of unnecessary desire and concern for a male child. He did
not give into such predominant social bias against girl child and left no stone
unturned to give a good life and education to all her daughters, prodded them
to excel in life and enjoy life to the full; which has eventually turned her
daughters into loving and confident professionals on their own right with
ability to take decisions about their family independently which is now
recognized and respected by their spouses. This could be the result of years of
conditioning and dispassionate grooming by the old man of his daughters not any
different from a son. The moral of the story remains; that, if you groom your
daughters without any gender bias; then, you are actually developing a few self
confident adults; responsible & mature citizens for the country. Women
constitute almost fifty percent our population and if majority of them become
productive; then, our country could straight away become an economic super
power. It is now all depends on responsible parenting.
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